The Value Of A Man
Do you ever wonder what the true value of a man is tied to?
Is it in his looks or does it depend on how smart or charming he is?
Is it about the car he drives and the great career he has?
Or maybe how much he makes you laugh?
The value of a man is directly tied to HIS LEVEL OF HIS INVESTMENT IN YOU.
You might believe that a man you just met is awesome and yet if he is not willing to invest in you, he is worthless to you!
You need to check how much he is ready to invest in you – his genuine interest, his time, his energy and his feelings.
If his level of investment in you is low, he has no value as your potential partner even though he might seem like a great or very interesting or attractive man.
Many ladies overlook this by being too invested in a man.
Before you even start considering an exclusive relationship with a man you need to check, does he really believe that you are an amazing person?
Does he really find you awesome?
Do you feel as if he is really giving his energy to you and can you feel that he REALLY likes you?
You want to be around men that are THRILLED to be a part of your life and who are “ALL IN”!
You don’t want to be around those who are liking you just a little bit, on and off, or “kind of”.
As soon as you get the signal that they are NOT “all in” say, “Next” and let them go saving the space for those who will be “all in”.
Guys can only love you and respect you as much as you love and respect yourself.
Take the, “I want to fall in love with you immediately” kind of emotions out of the beginning phases of dating!
I see this happening over and over again. Us women are longing to feel loved and cared for and are approaching dating in a too emotional way from the start.
It is like we are looking to fall in love as fast as possible and are totally confusing the feelings of chemistry with love.
When you meet a man who is really right for you, it may be that you don’t even recognize him as such!
You might not even be attracted to him at first! But he will recognize you!
This will be something so much different from what you thought it would be because up until that point, you would have been picking men based on the “chemistry” you feel for them.
This time, it will not be a chemical reaction such as your heart beating fast, knees going weak, hands shaking and that “out of yourself” kind of feeling.
When you meet the perfect partner for you, you will feel calm and relaxed.
No fear and no anxiety or agitation.
So for that reason, if you can take this urge for “falling in love fast” out of the initial phases of dating, that will do you good.
Have enough faith to continue dating men who treat you well and believe you are amazing, even if you are not feeling it straight away for them.
Keep dating them even if you don’t find them as interesting or attractive but you can see that they are really “into you” at the beginning.
You need to be very clear from the start about how you want to feel with a man that is of great value to you and has the potential for your perfect relationship.
If a guy is not “all in” and is not very excited to keep spending time with you, ask you questions and has a real interest in getting to know you, your job is to say, “Next” and free up that space!
Your job is not to observe his lack of interest as a call for “more action” from your side and invest even more in him.
No, my dear, turn around and smile at someone who believes you are amazing and who makes you feel great.
Someone who can see how awesome you are and how happy he is to have you in his life.
Don’t waste your time on wishy-washy, hot and cold guys who make you feel anything less than great.
The value of a man is equal to the level of his investment in you.
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Lots of love,