‘Stepping Back’

Your Feminine Power And How To Express It – part 1

Every person has masculine and feminine energy. Most men are mainly acting out of masculine energy.

Masculine energy is connected with thinking, giving, doing, managing, advising, planning, leading, organizing and so on.

We women are also using masculine energy while doing our everyday duties on our job, working on our projects, leading our businesses and earning money.

In our relationships with men, we started to act too often out of masculine energy and that is wrong! It has brought a lot of confusion into relationships because your man wants a woman and not another man!

Women have started acting like men!

Nowadays you can often see us chasing them, sending messages first or calling them, buying them drinks, asking them out, organizing things in a relationship, making plans, controlling men, trying to manage them and so on.

No wonder this kind of behavior doesn’t bring good results!

In a romantic relationship, it is very important to decide do we want to act from feminine or masculine energy.  

Feminine energy is about feeling, being, receiving, intuiting, allowing, responding, following, expressing and so on.

A man wants a woman who is warm and soft and who can listen to him. He wants a woman who doesn’t need to control or manage him. He wants a woman who RESPECTS him.

Respect is the most important thing for a man and when we try to control him he doesn’t  feel respected.

A man wants a woman who is able to feel and able to express her feelings easily and clearly without being emotional or needy or a drama queen. A woman who is easy to be with!

Therefore, while we are with a man we should let him be a leader while we act from feminine energy. It’s not possible to dance if both partners are leading. Let him lead! That will ignite your romance.

Hence, how can us women connect more with our feminine energy and act out of it while relating to men?

The first step is to be present in our body and to be able to feel.

A woman needs to start acknowledging her feelings and expressing it to a man by simply starting the sentence with “I feel ….“

Our basic feeling statements would be “I feel happy“, “I feel sad“, “I feel angry“, “I feel scared“, “I feel glad“, “I feel warm“, “I feel cold“ and so on.

Finding a feeling in every moment and simply expressing it will result in connecting your heart to his heart. Heart to heart connection is the most important thing in a romance.

Opening our hearts to a man is powerful and that is the only way he can fall in love with us. The process starts with us opening up to him so he can open up to us as well.

He will feel safe with us when we are being authentic and vulnerable. A connection will happen when we start sharing our truth straight from our heart.

Man needs to feel safe with us in order to fall in love. And he needs to feel thrilled.

Any mature masculine man wants naturally to give you his love, his affection, his gifts, his time and interest and he wants everything to be his idea.

He wants to invite you to go with him to different places, to initiate calls and to lead.

The problem happens when a woman is trying to manage a relationship and lead it, in the same way, she is leading, planning, organizing or managing her business. We can’t apply the same behavior in our love life!

The business world and romance world are different.

In love, it is necessary to act from feminine energy.We need to let go of control!

Most of all, we need to stop ourselves before attempting to do any masculine activities like trying to lead and manage the relationship.

Most relevant is to stop ourselves when we want to manage him, criticize, complain, give him advice or suggestions or when we want to initiate anything, offer favors or offer anything. Stop that immediately if you have been doing this until this moment!

All those things are very controlling and men shut down when we do it and they become resentful.

Very often they get angry at us without being aware that they are angry. They feel that we are trying to control and manipulate them and they don’t like it. They lose attraction towards us without even knowing why.

 Instead of controlling behavior we will choose to use “Feeling Statements“.

When we really stop doing all those controlling behaviors, there will be a lot of silence in our conversations with him. He will feel something has changed about us and  that our vibe is different. He will notice that we are much easier to be with.

He will finally feel free to relax in our own company and he will be able to breathe freely.

And then, he will have a chance to step towards us and to truly hear us as we have started to express ourselves in feeling statements.

We will be stepping back all the time so he can step forwards.

It is like in the dance. One has to step back so another can step forward. Controlling behavior is very stepping forward behavior and we want to avoid that by all means.

Acting from our feminine energy means always leaning back which brings harmony to the relationship.

 Removing all our controlling behavior from a relationship brings peace and joy to our man and all men we are interacting with. Once when we have removed all controlling behavior, man can come to us and shower us with his love and affection.

Being authentic, open and vulnerable and letting go of control doesn’t sound like the easiest thing to do when you first hear about it.

When you’ll start to practice it baby step by baby step you’ll feel more and more confident to be yourself.

Choose to act from your feminine energy, lean back and put yourself and your feelings first.The results that you will get very soon will amaze you!

 

 P.S. If you want to get more love advice from me and connect with other ladies who are also learning some new things about dating and relationships, join us in private Facebook group “Love With Ease”.

Everything you post there is highly confidential.

Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/277358435991748

I would love to support you more.

Lots of love,

Andreja


Why He Hasn’t Called And What To Do About It

 If you are feeling anxious because your man has suddenly stopped calling, or has even ignored your messages after you reached out to him…

Or

If you went on the first date with a new guy you like very much and you believe it all went well, but it’s been a week and he still hasn’t called you…

I understand how you feel.  I’ve been there.

You may feel  anxious, confused, worried and scared that you are going to lose him. You may feel insecure and almost desperate.

It doesn’t have to be like that!

We need to shift your vibe straight away because feeling insecure, scared or anxious will just make things worse! I’m sure we can fix this right now!

THIS IS WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IN THE FOLLOWING DAYS:

  • Shift your vibe by making yourself feel good. Do other things that you enjoy doing, such as going to different classes, joining Meetup groups, going to salsa or hiking or taking a meditation course etc.
  • Explore some new Meetup groups or classes. Go out and meet some new people!
  • If you are not dating other guys, now is a good moment to open an online dating profile. You will quickly realize that there are many other men who would be very happy to meet you and get to know you. Go out and date other men!
  • Focus your attention on yourself, change something about yourself, your hairstyle or wear a different type of clothing or jewelry. Find something you feel passionate about that has nothing to do with any man and allow yourself to go after it
  • Go and meet your girlfriends and do something fun.
  • Do everything that is in your power to make your life so busy that it can feel like you haven’t even noticed that he hasn’t called you.

HERE IS WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO IN THIS SITUATION:

  • Don’t try to reach out to him by calling him or texting him
  • Don’t try to contact his friends to ask them what has happened to him and why he hasn’t called you
  • Stop thinking about him, stop asking yourself what could have gone wrong, stop beating yourself up if you are starting to feel guilty or rejected
  • Stop checking his social media networks to see when he was last time online and if he published something new on Facebook or Instagram
  • Stop all activities that will keep you obsessing about him such as talking about him to your girlfriends or colleagues.

  • Stop talking and thinking about him!

Giving attention to yourself and your life will help you reduce his importance. Man can sense when we feel needy or desperate. You need to feel lit up from the inside.

Whenever you ‘re thinking too much about any man and focus your energy and attention on him, you are stepping forward to him. Hence, you’re taking away his space to come to you. You are not in a receiving mode!

It doesn’t matter why is he pulling away; maybe he is thinking about his next step in your relationship, maybe he is thinking are you the right person for him, maybe it is just a part of your relationship timeline.  Maybe he is just not the right person for you! It doesn’t matter why and don’t waste tine wondering why!

Men have the need to pull away from time to time. That is their thing. They are like a rubber band. They came to us as close as they can and then they have a need to pull back.

The reasons why he has pulled away, aren’t as important as your reaction to his withdrawing which is crucial in creating attraction or pushing him away even further.

If he IS the right person and just needs some space and time, the most important thing for you to do in order to get a good outcome is to do the steps I just described.

Finally, always remember you can’t push away a man that is right for you,

 

P.S. If you want to get more love advice from me and connect with other ladies who are also learning some new things about dating and relationships, join us in private Facebook group “Love With Ease”.

Everything you post there is highly confidential.

Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/277358435991748

I would love to support you more.

Lots of love,

Andreja