‘Respect’

What if he texts you but doesn’t ask you out on a date?

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Have you ever met a guy who you like and he sends you nice text messages on a regular basis but never asks you out? 

You like him very much but time is passing and nothing changes. You feel very frustrated about it.

He is flirting with you and you are surely not in a friend zone but what is he waiting for? Why doesn’t he ask you out?you might be wondering.

Maybe after a long wait, you decided to take initiative and ask him out. He said yes but then canceled at the last moment. Looks like he is really wishy-washy but he keeps sending messages to you.

What does that mean and what to do about it?

Texting can’t replace face to face visits. Many intelligent women nowadays get fooled by this attention and believe that it means something. But sadly, it doesn’t!!!

Texting without meeting and dating is just words, nothing more!

Some men get their fill of feminine energy without ever needing to date you. In some cases, they build a stable texting buddies to boost their ego.

Don’t fall into this trap!

When a man is truly interested in you, he will ask you out and he will want to see you! No matter what that man has to do, he will fit you into his schedule. If a guy really likes you, he will make time for you and make sure he gets in touch with you. 

If he likes you, you will know it! You shouldn’t ever be left wondering.

What to do in a situation like this? This man is actually stringing you along and “chatting you up”. He is keeping you as an option if all the other things don’t work out.

Maybe he talks about getting together but never follows up. This is a man who has decided you are not the one for him. It is possible that you feed his ego so he keeps up flirting and texting because it makes him feel good.

If he doesn’t ask to talk on the phone and then meet you within next ten days or maximum of two weeks, you can stop answering his texts and move on! It is simple as that! You are investing your precious time in a man who has no plans to date you.

Therefore, it is your job to get out of the situation like this and to weed out guys who are not serious. Those texting things are meaningless!

This is one of the boundaries you can set for yourself and refuse any guy who is not acting in accordance with it.

For example, I had my boundary set that I stop responding to a man who hasn’t asked me out in a three weeks period.

Set your own boundaries in advance and stick to them!

Having boundaries helps us in valuing ourselves and in maintaining our confidence high. Every man that meets you will know that you are a woman who values and respects herself and holds herself in high regard. He will be able to feel it in your vibe.

That will make you even more attractive. Having boundaries will help you to let go of the people who don’t do what they are supposed to so you can make free space for the ones who will give you all that you need.

Don’t accept crumbs when you deserve the whole cake! We accept the love we think we deserve.  You deserve the best! You deserve a man who will want to spend time with you and who will not keep you waiting and wondering. You deserve a man to whom you will be a priority and not just a texting buddy.

Hence, if you notice that a guy is wishy-washy, just move on!

You deserve better than that! Don’t make excuses for him and don’t waste more of your precious time.

If he wanted to ask you out, he would!

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Lots of love,

Andreja


Your Feminine Power And How To Express It – part 1

Every person has masculine and feminine energy. Most men are mainly acting out of masculine energy.

Masculine energy is connected with thinking, giving, doing, managing, advising, planning, leading, organizing and so on.

We women are also using masculine energy while doing our everyday duties on our job, working on our projects, leading our businesses and earning money.

In our relationships with men, we started to act too often out of masculine energy and that is wrong! It has brought a lot of confusion into relationships because your man wants a woman and not another man!

Women have started acting like men!

Nowadays you can often see us chasing them, sending messages first or calling them, buying them drinks, asking them out, organizing things in a relationship, making plans, controlling men, trying to manage them and so on.

No wonder this kind of behavior doesn’t bring good results!

In a romantic relationship, it is very important to decide do we want to act from feminine or masculine energy.  

Feminine energy is about feeling, being, receiving, intuiting, allowing, responding, following, expressing and so on.

A man wants a woman who is warm and soft and who can listen to him. He wants a woman who doesn’t need to control or manage him. He wants a woman who RESPECTS him.

Respect is the most important thing for a man and when we try to control him he doesn’t  feel respected.

A man wants a woman who is able to feel and able to express her feelings easily and clearly without being emotional or needy or a drama queen. A woman who is easy to be with!

Therefore, while we are with a man we should let him be a leader while we act from feminine energy. It’s not possible to dance if both partners are leading. Let him lead! That will ignite your romance.

Hence, how can us women connect more with our feminine energy and act out of it while relating to men?

The first step is to be present in our body and to be able to feel.

A woman needs to start acknowledging her feelings and expressing it to a man by simply starting the sentence with “I feel ….“

Our basic feeling statements would be “I feel happy“, “I feel sad“, “I feel angry“, “I feel scared“, “I feel glad“, “I feel warm“, “I feel cold“ and so on.

Finding a feeling in every moment and simply expressing it will result in connecting your heart to his heart. Heart to heart connection is the most important thing in a romance.

Opening our hearts to a man is powerful and that is the only way he can fall in love with us. The process starts with us opening up to him so he can open up to us as well.

He will feel safe with us when we are being authentic and vulnerable. A connection will happen when we start sharing our truth straight from our heart.

Man needs to feel safe with us in order to fall in love. And he needs to feel thrilled.

Any mature masculine man wants naturally to give you his love, his affection, his gifts, his time and interest and he wants everything to be his idea.

He wants to invite you to go with him to different places, to initiate calls and to lead.

The problem happens when a woman is trying to manage a relationship and lead it, in the same way, she is leading, planning, organizing or managing her business. We can’t apply the same behavior in our love life!

The business world and romance world are different.

In love, it is necessary to act from feminine energy.We need to let go of control!

Most of all, we need to stop ourselves before attempting to do any masculine activities like trying to lead and manage the relationship.

Most relevant is to stop ourselves when we want to manage him, criticize, complain, give him advice or suggestions or when we want to initiate anything, offer favors or offer anything. Stop that immediately if you have been doing this until this moment!

All those things are very controlling and men shut down when we do it and they become resentful.

Very often they get angry at us without being aware that they are angry. They feel that we are trying to control and manipulate them and they don’t like it. They lose attraction towards us without even knowing why.

 Instead of controlling behavior we will choose to use “Feeling Statements“.

When we really stop doing all those controlling behaviors, there will be a lot of silence in our conversations with him. He will feel something has changed about us and  that our vibe is different. He will notice that we are much easier to be with.

He will finally feel free to relax in our own company and he will be able to breathe freely.

And then, he will have a chance to step towards us and to truly hear us as we have started to express ourselves in feeling statements.

We will be stepping back all the time so he can step forwards.

It is like in the dance. One has to step back so another can step forward. Controlling behavior is very stepping forward behavior and we want to avoid that by all means.

Acting from our feminine energy means always leaning back which brings harmony to the relationship.

 Removing all our controlling behavior from a relationship brings peace and joy to our man and all men we are interacting with. Once when we have removed all controlling behavior, man can come to us and shower us with his love and affection.

Being authentic, open and vulnerable and letting go of control doesn’t sound like the easiest thing to do when you first hear about it.

When you’ll start to practice it baby step by baby step you’ll feel more and more confident to be yourself.

Choose to act from your feminine energy, lean back and put yourself and your feelings first.The results that you will get very soon will amaze you!

 

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Andreja


Are you tolerating bad behavior? Learn how to say no when something doesn’t feel right

Have you ever experienced situations in which you were not happy with your man’s behavior but were tolerating it without saying a word?

You were too afraid that you will scare him if you say something? So you rather stuffed it down?

What do I mean by man’s bad behavior?

I am talking about small things in a relationship that don’t make us women feel good. The lack of respect and caring. Unconsiderable, too selfish or ignorant behavior.

Maybe even toxic behavior where he says some nasty words to you which I hope is not the case.

For example, a man asks you often to drive to him even though he can drive to you.

Or maybe sometimes when you two are messaging it takes hours before he replies. You know that he could reply before if he wanted and that is bothering you. Yet still, you don’t say anything.

A man who asks you out on a date and then keeps canceling at the last minute.

A man who talks about his ex on the first date and you really don’t want to hear about it.

A man who never says that he is sorry and so on.

There are endless examples of this.

When we are tolerating a bad behavior, it is like we are saying to a man that it is okay to treat us like that.

At the beginning of the relationship, men will test you to see how much you can put up with.

A woman who knows her value and her high worth does not tolerate! She either accepts or rejects.

That is the kind of woman I want you, dear reader, to become! A Goddess type a woman. A Diva kind of woman!

A woman who knows what she wants and what she feels and who is strong from the inside.

It is very important, even when you aren’t happy with some behavior, to express yourself in a soft and a feminine way. That means by using feeling statements and without attacking or controlling a man.

I know you can do this!  Ask yourself in your current relationship, are you tolerating something?

Women don’t want to be selfish or mean. They want to be nice and kind in all situation and avoid the conflict.

That is the main reason they sometimes don’t feel brave enough to share how they truly feel.

They want to be liked by a man. They feel very scared he will get mad or leave them.

They feel so afraid to lose a man that they rather ignore things that need to be addressed the same moment they happened.

Never be afraid to loose a man because you were intolerant to bad behavior. When we ignore the small things, they grow!

If you don’t express your truth and repress it. hiding it and sit on it, those emotions will start to control you. You will be less and less happy during the time.

Very soon your emotions will start to control you to the extent that you will start to act out of it.

You should never act out of emotions because that will only make things worse.

There is a huge difference between expressing emotions in a feminine way and acting out of it.

Acting out of emotions means being totally controlled by them.

If you read my other blogs, I write a lot about how to express yourself in a way that a man can hear and understand. In a way which is not controlling and without  attacking him or making him wrong.

During the process of dating, you will meet many men who will vanish or will not be a good match.

Every time you will stand for yourself and speak your truth, you will feel more and more powerful. With every “no” you say to a man, you will feel as you are sticking by your highest value. You will be so proud of yourself and you will respect and love yourself even more. 

As a result of all that, you will attract a better quality man.

The truth is that men actually lose attraction for a woman who does everything they want. A woman who puts up with everything and is okay with whatever he does.

If you tolerate this kind of little things and try to please him by all means, it will actually push him away. He will realize that you actually don’t value yourself much!  You are putting him first instead of putting yourself first.

 

Always feel free to say ” This is not working for me”, or “I don’t want to do this”, or “This doesn’t feel good”, or “I don’t feel comfortable with men who are late on dates” and so on.

Every time when you will stay grounded and firm in your values and standards, you will feel great and strong.

Start by observing what you really feel and what you really want in any particular situation. When you feel triggered you need to slow down and really investigate yourself and become a detective of yourself. Notice what is really happening with you at a particular moment. Discover what you truly feel and what you truly want and express in a way previously described.

As a result of this, you will succeed to love and value yourself even more.  You will radiate confidence, strength, and high self-respect.

You will attract a man who will want to love you and value you in the same amount that you love and value yourself.

I wish you success in achieving this and to always be awake to catch when something doesn’t feel good and to be able to express it in a peaceful, feminine, free and untriggered way without acting out of feelings.

 

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Lots of love,

Andreja