I remember a few years ago someone told me that “Our Vibe Speak Louder Then Our Words”.
I remember back then I understood that; whenever we feel good. positive and energetic, we spread good vibes to people around us and to the universe.
What does it really mean to shift our vibe? When is our vibe actually speaking something that we aren’t saying? We are all so good at pretending and such good actors. We believe that it is much better to hide the truth sometimes and to stay in our comfort zone and not to rock the boat of the relationship.
Pretending, acting, lying, being defensive, stuffing things down, trying to please others on our own cost or not being able to say “no“ to a man will just push a man away.
Let me give you an example.
Imagine you’re feeling angry because a man you are dating is late for a date and that isn’t the first time. You don’t want to evoke an argument or a fight so you just smile and act like nothing happened. Even though you’re sitting there with a big smile on your face, he can feel, in your vibe, in your energy field, that something is off.
He actually feels uncomfortable sitting there with you. He feels the tension in the air even though he doesn’t know why. You didn’t say anything to him, but still, your vibe is communicating that you aren’t happy about something.
How can you shift your vibe in a situation like this?
It can happen simply by being authentic, expressing your truth in the moment without attacking a man or making him wrong. It’s about expressing how you feel and asking him what he thinks about it.
A woman who is strong and confident enough to tell her truth in any situation is very attractive to a man. A woman who is able to feel her feelings and express them in each moment, simple and authentic as they show up, is a magnet to a man.
If you have felt angry, you should allow yourself to feel angry and acknowledge and accept it . Embrace that feeling and take full responsibility for it!
When he comes to you, you can share with him that you feel angry and that you don’t like waiting and ask him what he thinks you two should do? The most important thing here is to owe your own anger without attacking him or acting out of it.
Shifting your vibe at any moment is a skill you can learn by practicing it baby step by baby step.
It is crucial to recognize moments in which your vibe is changing. Moments in which you start to feel needy, desperate or similar. You can stop those moments by redirecting your thoughts to more positive ones.
You Need To Trust Your Vibe Because Energy Never Lies!
In order to have a good vibe, it is also necessary to do all in your power to feel good about yourself.
In addition, shifting your vibe is very much about the attitude you have toward yourself.
Do you believe deep inside yourself that you’re lovable? Do you believe that you deserve love and fulfilling and wonderful relationship?
What are your beliefs about men and relationships? Do you think that all the good men are taken and that you will never attract a good man for yourself?
Do you believe that you’re attractive to all men around you? Are you a crumb taker, a doormat type of woman? Or do you believe that you are a prize he has to win?
All the beliefs you have about yourself are with you in your energy field; in your vibe, and you are carrying them with you where ever you go.
Whatever you believe about yourself deep down, you will attract in the outside world!
If you don’t value yourself and don’t believe that you deserve a great partner, you will attract a man who will not treat you well because deep down you believe that you don’t deserve anyone better than that. Your vibe attracts your tribe!
We get the love we think we deserve!
Therefore, if you change your attitude and start to believe deep down, in the core of your being, that you’re lovable and a prize who deserve only the best, your vibe will automatically shift.
Men will feel that you are grounded in self-love and high self-esteem.
That’s why it’s crucial to get to know yourself well and to realize which deep beliefs you have about yourself and which voices in your head you listen to, so you can change them.
Maybe your beliefs and previous experiences are working against you and blocking love from coming to you.
Our past is not our destiny. We can change this all around.
I know you can do this!
Be brave enough to uncover yourself; remove all the layers of protection, all the defenses and anything that is preventing you from speaking your truth clearly and without fear.
Always remember you can’t hide the vibration of your true feelings. Allow yourself to stay connected to what you really feel and be confident enough to share it with your man.
Therefore embrace your vulnerability and let your soul be seen.
Speak your truth. Always!
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Lots of love,
As women, we shall be soft and open like the flowers.
The same as a flower opens its petals to receive the warmth from the sun, us women shall always stay open and in a receiving mode. Always feeling ready to receive love from a man and from the world around us.
We shouldn’t allow ourselves to shut down and to be closed off or absorbed in our thoughts.
We are smart, intuitive, creative and powerful creatures.
A woman who is connected with her feminine power is aware of the huge value she is adding to her man’s life. She feels as a Goddess.
What are the characteristics of a Goddess Woman?
Before I write about what her secret is and which attitudes she has, let me write a little about the opposite kind of woman ; a clingy and needy one.
The one whose energy supply depends on a man.
A woman who doesn’t have any other joys and passions besides her relationship.
She feels as if she needs a man to complete her and to make her feel fulfilled.
Can you imagine how her world can easily become very small by being hung up on that one particular man?
As I wrote in my previous blogs, dating different men at the same time with the right mindset can help you tremendously to never come to the point of neediness and desperation.
Being attractive, a magnetic and irresistible is about being your most authentic and vulnerable self. It is about deeply enjoying who you are and radiating positive vibe to all the people around you.
What if I tell you that you can achieve this just by changing the attitude you have about yourself?
By finding your purpose and some activity in your life which will constantly keep you inspired and motivated?
Setting a goal that will make you jump out of your bed in the morning! It is your job to find and set this kind of goal.
Let me go back to the secret of the Goddess Woman and share with you which attitudes make her so confident and irresistible.
The beliefs and attitudes of a woman who is connected with her feminine power are:
She knows that SHE is responsible for her feelings of happiness, and not her man.
If some man doesn’t treat her good, she doesn’t tolerate an inconsiderable behavior. She either accept or reject because she is the one in charge!
Your man wants to be around soft, juicy, confident and authentic woman .
If you try to practice some of those attitudes which I described, you’ll see how your life will start changing!
Being connected to our strong feminine essence and power means having a strong as a rock belief.
A belief that we are strong and grounded from the inside which will make us warm, open, inviting and soft on the outside.
Fill yourself with positive feelings and adopt in your life all of the attitudes of a Goddess type of woman. Very soon you will start to attract men who will treat you like one!
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Lots of love,
Sometimes, being a girlfriend isn’t in your best interest if you’re looking for a long term commitment.
You believe that accepting the exclusivity straight away will be the first step to “happily ever after”.
But men don’t think that way!
It doesn’t matter if you’ve seen your man for a few months or a few years, in his eyes you two are dating.
Many women believe that if he introduces you to his family or his friends or, if he has been dating you for a long time, it means your relationship is becoming more serious.
Unfortunately, that’s not true!
Your man believes that until the moment he proposes you, you two are just dating!
Let me give an example for this.
You’ve been seeing a guy for a few months and you really like him. You accepted the title of “girlfriend” and the promise of exclusivity. The problem is that he isn’t calling you as much as you would like, and he’s not seeing you as often as you would like.
It feels like something is missing.
Very often you find yourself thinking about him and wondering if you should stay with him or find someone else. You have strong feelings for him, but it feels as if he isn’t giving you his full attention. For a few days, he is showering you with all his love and affection, and then a couple of days afterward he becomes totally silent. He is acting hot and cold.
You feel scared to tell him that you aren’t happy with his hot and cold behavior. You don’t want to sound needy or desperate.
You start to wonder did you do something wrong to provoke this hot and cold behavior?
I understand how that feels, I’ve been there and we can fix this!
Guys who aren’t steady in expressing their affection and interest can be so draining and not fun. They can make us feel insecure and unimportant and often very confused.
You don’t have much from a guy who calls you one time per week or sees you a few times per month!
What do you do in a situation like this? Is the only solution to leave him and find someone else? Or do you stay with the same behavior in hopes that something may change in the future?
The solution to this is very simple!
If you’re longing for a long term relationship, you shouldn’t allow yourself to become exclusive too soon with anyone. If a marriage is what you want then you shouldn’t become exclusive with anyone until marriage is on the table.
Having fun, going out on many dates, but being intimate with just one guy is the solution!
In order to keep yourself sane and not becoming needy, the best thing to do is not to allow yourself to fall into “a girlfriend trap“.
If you are looking for a long term committed relationship, then it’s for the best to keep your options open until the right guy, who really wants you, claims you by proposing to you.
A period of three or four months is enough to see whether the guy makes you feel great.
If during that period he does his job of meeting your needs well, seeing you at least two times per week, calling you regularly in between, asking you out on dates and you feel really good, then it is okay to continue like that.
If he doesn’t do his job well, and you start to feel insecure and needy by being with him in an exclusive relationship, this is what you can tell him:
“I feel great dating you and I feel awesome in your company, but I don’t want to be a girlfriend. I am looking for someone who I can walk into the sunset with. I am looking for a committed relationship and for someone who is truly here for me. I don’t want to put any pressure on you or on our relationship so I would like to keep my options open by going out on coffee dates with other men“.
If the marriage is what you want, you can share this kind of a speech when you are with a man who doesn’t claim you after around a year of dating him.
Until the moment he proposes you, a man doesn’t feel any real commitment to you.
By allowing yourself to be his girlfriend, you’re at his mercy (at the mercy of his free time, at the mercy of his feelings and decisions etc), and you cut all your options without being sure of the outcome of the relationship.
You are becoming dependent on his behavior, and he has so much control!
That’s why it is crucial to allow yourself to date other men, going for coffee dates or drinks, or going for a walk with different types of men.
By dating other men and keeping your options open, you’ll never allow yourself to become dependent on the outcome of a particular situation with just one man.
The same moment you open an online profile and start to receive messages from many different men, you’ll start to feel so much more relaxed.
You’ll experience having other options.
You’ll start to talk with other men via texts and you’ll immediately feel how much until now you’ve been energetically focused on your man. That extreme focus is very often a reason why he hasn’t come closer to you.
Leaning forward behavior often pushes a man away; and by dating just one man, you can easily start leaning forward and becoming desperate or too dependable.
Going on dates with different men will immediately make you see a bigger picture of possibility instead of enforcing a laser focus on just one man.
Even your man will immediately start to feel that your vibe has shifted and that you aren’t so hung up on him.
Online dating is the best remedy for shifting our vibe straight away and healing ourselves which I will describe more briefly in one of my next blog posts.