‘Feminine Power’

The Necessity Of Leaning Back

Dear ladies,

Leaning back is one of the first and most important tools I encourage you to practice on your journey of getting better results in your love life.

To lean back is a very feminine feature and is all about energetically creating a space for a man to come to you.

It is about allowing him to come to you without you needing to do anything besides adopting a strong belief that you are worthy of being pursued and very worthy of being loved by a good quality man without needing to DO anything to deserve it.

It is absolutely enough to just embody your feminine energy because a good quality man wants to love you just because you are a woman and not based on what you “do”.

So how does leaning back in a relationship look like?

Not texting or calling a man first especially first few months of the relationship
As least as possible thinking about a man when you are not in his company
While on dates not initiating conversation. Instead of initiating questions letting him take a masculine role of a leader
Not initiating physical touch or asking him first about his day. Let him come to you.
Letting go of an urge to “make something happen”

In order not to push a good quality masculine man, I suggest you to NEVER do leaning forward activities.

When you Lean Forward, a man energetically feels as if you are going forward into his space and that actually pushes him away.

In a relationship, there is not enough space for both of you to lean forward so one needs to step back in order that one can come forward.

It is like in a dance; if a man leads,  a woman needs to let go of control, follow him and trust that he knows what he is doing.

How does leaning forward in a relationship look like?

The biggest leaning forward activity is chasing a man:
Calling him because you heard or read about something interesting or because someone told you about an awesome event or a concert that you want to invite him to
Asking him why he hasn’t called
Texting him, calling, Facebooking, dropping by his house or initiating any kind of contact
Asking him how he feels
Asking him how he feels about you and where this relationship is going
If you two live together, running for a hug the moment he comes home and asking him how his day was
Doing him a favor even though he didn’t ask you to or offering any kind of help without him asking you
Solving his problems and suggesting solutions
Planning a weekend for you two or inviting him to come to join you at gym or spa or anywhere
Thinking about him all the time
…. and similar

Many men perceive check-ins, offers or invitations as a kind of a pressure or a woman taking on the role of a pursuer.

You might believe that you are just being friendly and kind but trust me if a man is your romantic interest you shouldn’t treat him as a “friend”.

Don’t lie to yourself that you are just being “friendly” if you are interested in something more.

By leaning forward you lower his attraction for you.

If a man is interested in you, he will take the role of a pursuer and you only need to stay energetically open to him, warm and receptive.

I know you can give me examples of some of your girlfriends who texted their boyfriends at the beginning of the relationship all the time and a man still stayed with them.

You can tell me about the examples of the ladies that invited them places and organized and initiated many things and did a lot of leaning forward behavior and still end up marrying that guy.

The thing is that this kind of man is a very feminine energy kind of a man.

A woman who is with this kind of a man sooner or later gets tired of doing all the work in a relationship and she can start to get annoyed with him and maybe even start to build resentment.

It is much better to lean back at the beginning of a relationship so that a man can show if is he capable of taking the role of a leader.

If he isn’t, it is better to find that out as soon as possible before you find yourself in a marriage with him and than complaining how passive and clueless he is and you have to do all the work in a relationship.

From the start, you have the chance to see is your man masculine or feminine energy type of a man and the only way to see that is by leaning back.

Be brave enough to step back and relax in your feminine energy and let him work for you!

Are you naturally more leaning forward or leaning back kind of a woman? Do you find it hard to lean back?

If you have been leaning forward kind of a woman until now, try to practice this tool and let me know how it goes.

Love,

Andreja


Your Feminine Power And How To Express It – part 1

Every person has masculine and feminine energy. Most men are mainly acting out of masculine energy.

Masculine energy is connected with thinking, giving, doing, managing, advising, planning, leading, organizing and so on.

We women are also using masculine energy while doing our everyday duties on our job, working on our projects, leading our businesses and earning money.

In our relationships with men, we started to act too often out of masculine energy and that is wrong! It has brought a lot of confusion into relationships because your man wants a woman and not another man!

Women have started acting like men!

Nowadays you can often see us chasing them, sending messages first or calling them, buying them drinks, asking them out, organizing things in a relationship, making plans, controlling men, trying to manage them and so on.

No wonder this kind of behavior doesn’t bring good results!

In a romantic relationship, it is very important to decide do we want to act from feminine or masculine energy.  

Feminine energy is about feeling, being, receiving, intuiting, allowing, responding, following, expressing and so on.

A man wants a woman who is warm and soft and who can listen to him. He wants a woman who doesn’t need to control or manage him. He wants a woman who RESPECTS him.

Respect is the most important thing for a man and when we try to control him he doesn’t  feel respected.

A man wants a woman who is able to feel and able to express her feelings easily and clearly without being emotional or needy or a drama queen. A woman who is easy to be with!

Therefore, while we are with a man we should let him be a leader while we act from feminine energy. It’s not possible to dance if both partners are leading. Let him lead! That will ignite your romance.

Hence, how can us women connect more with our feminine energy and act out of it while relating to men?

The first step is to be present in our body and to be able to feel.

A woman needs to start acknowledging her feelings and expressing it to a man by simply starting the sentence with “I feel ….“

Our basic feeling statements would be “I feel happy“, “I feel sad“, “I feel angry“, “I feel scared“, “I feel glad“, “I feel warm“, “I feel cold“ and so on.

Finding a feeling in every moment and simply expressing it will result in connecting your heart to his heart. Heart to heart connection is the most important thing in a romance.

Opening our hearts to a man is powerful and that is the only way he can fall in love with us. The process starts with us opening up to him so he can open up to us as well.

He will feel safe with us when we are being authentic and vulnerable. A connection will happen when we start sharing our truth straight from our heart.

Man needs to feel safe with us in order to fall in love. And he needs to feel thrilled.

Any mature masculine man wants naturally to give you his love, his affection, his gifts, his time and interest and he wants everything to be his idea.

He wants to invite you to go with him to different places, to initiate calls and to lead.

The problem happens when a woman is trying to manage a relationship and lead it, in the same way, she is leading, planning, organizing or managing her business. We can’t apply the same behavior in our love life!

The business world and romance world are different.

In love, it is necessary to act from feminine energy.We need to let go of control!

Most of all, we need to stop ourselves before attempting to do any masculine activities like trying to lead and manage the relationship.

Most relevant is to stop ourselves when we want to manage him, criticize, complain, give him advice or suggestions or when we want to initiate anything, offer favors or offer anything. Stop that immediately if you have been doing this until this moment!

All those things are very controlling and men shut down when we do it and they become resentful.

Very often they get angry at us without being aware that they are angry. They feel that we are trying to control and manipulate them and they don’t like it. They lose attraction towards us without even knowing why.

 Instead of controlling behavior we will choose to use “Feeling Statements“.

When we really stop doing all those controlling behaviors, there will be a lot of silence in our conversations with him. He will feel something has changed about us and  that our vibe is different. He will notice that we are much easier to be with.

He will finally feel free to relax in our own company and he will be able to breathe freely.

And then, he will have a chance to step towards us and to truly hear us as we have started to express ourselves in feeling statements.

We will be stepping back all the time so he can step forwards.

It is like in the dance. One has to step back so another can step forward. Controlling behavior is very stepping forward behavior and we want to avoid that by all means.

Acting from our feminine energy means always leaning back which brings harmony to the relationship.

 Removing all our controlling behavior from a relationship brings peace and joy to our man and all men we are interacting with. Once when we have removed all controlling behavior, man can come to us and shower us with his love and affection.

Being authentic, open and vulnerable and letting go of control doesn’t sound like the easiest thing to do when you first hear about it.

When you’ll start to practice it baby step by baby step you’ll feel more and more confident to be yourself.

Choose to act from your feminine energy, lean back and put yourself and your feelings first.The results that you will get very soon will amaze you!

 

 P.S. If you want to get more love advice from me and connect with other ladies who are also learning some new things about dating and relationships, join us in private Facebook group “Love With Ease”.

Everything you post there is highly confidential.

Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/277358435991748

I would love to support you more.

Lots of love,

Andreja


A Feminine Godess Type of A Woman

As women, we shall be soft and open like the flowers.

The same as a flower opens its petals to receive the warmth from the sun, us women shall always stay open and in a receiving mode. Always feeling ready to receive love from a man and from the world around us.

We shouldn’t allow ourselves to shut down and to be closed off or absorbed in our thoughts.

We are smart, intuitive, creative and powerful creatures.

A woman who is connected with her feminine power is aware of the huge value she is adding to her man’s life. She feels as a Goddess.

What are the characteristics of a Goddess Woman?

  • Freedom to be who she is and feeling free to express herself in a way a man finds compelling.
  • A knowledge that a man is here to add to her life, but she doesn’t need him in order to feel good. She already feels good herself and is a high maintenance.
  • Not having time to worry about what any man does when he’s not around her because she is too busy taking care of herself and following her dreams
  • Being too busy going after things she loves and things that make her happy, inspired and passionate. Going after things that make her filled with positive feelings and energy so she can share her happy self with him.

A Goddess Woman has naturally a high degree of difficulty because she knows her secret.

Before I write about what her secret is and which attitudes she has, let me write a little about the opposite kind of woman ; a clingy and needy one.

The one whose energy supply depends on a man.

A woman who doesn’t have any other joys and passions besides her relationship.

She feels as if she needs a man to complete her and to make her feel fulfilled.

Can you imagine how her world can easily become very small by being hung up on that one particular man?

As I wrote in my previous blogs, dating different men at the same time with the right mindset can help you tremendously to never come to the point of neediness and desperation.

Being attractive, a magnetic and irresistible is about being your most authentic and vulnerable self. It is about deeply enjoying who you are and radiating positive vibe to all the people around you.

What if I tell you that you can achieve this just by changing the attitude you have about yourself?

By finding your purpose and some activity in your life which will constantly keep you inspired and motivated?

Setting a goal that will make you jump out of your bed in the morning! It is your job to find and set this kind of goal.

Let me go back to the secret of the Goddess Woman and share with you which attitudes make her so confident and irresistible.

The beliefs and attitudes of a woman who is connected with her feminine power are:

  • knowing that she has A LOT to offer to a man
  • knowing that she brings a special value to her man’s life.
  • knowing her VALUE and WORTH
  • believing that what she has to offer will strongly enrich her man’s life.
  • being sure that there is an abundance of love and that all men want to love her. The only thing she needs to do is to be open to RECEIVE the love which is all around and surely coming to her.
  • believing that she is the best thing ever happened to him.
  • believing that her man finds her extremely attractive…  and so on.

She knows that SHE is responsible for her feelings of happiness, and not her man.

If some man doesn’t treat her good, she doesn’t tolerate an inconsiderable behavior. She either accept or reject because she is the one in charge!

Your man wants to be around soft, juicy, confident and authentic woman .

If you try to practice some of those attitudes which I described, you’ll see how your life will start changing!

Being connected to our strong feminine essence and power means having a strong as a rock belief.

A belief that we are strong and grounded from the inside which will make us warm, open, inviting and soft on the outside.

Fill yourself with positive feelings and adopt in your life all of the attitudes of a Goddess type of woman. Very soon you will start to attract men who will treat you like one!

 

P.S. If you want to get more love advice from me and connect with other ladies who are also learning some new things about dating and relationships, join us in private Facebook group “Love With Ease”.

Everything you post there is highly confidential.

Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/277358435991748

I would love to support you more.

Lots of love,

Andreja