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How Shifting Your Vibe Can Help You Become More Attractive

I remember a few years ago someone told me that “Our Vibe Speak Louder Then Our Words”.

I remember back then I understood that; whenever we feel good. positive and energetic, we spread good vibes to people around us and to the universe.

What does it really mean to shift our vibe? When is our vibe actually speaking something that we aren’t saying? We are all so good at pretending and such good actors. We believe that it is much better to hide the truth sometimes and to stay in our comfort zone and not to rock the boat of the relationship.

Pretending, acting, lying, being defensive, stuffing things down, trying to please others on our own cost  or not being able to say “no“ to a man will just push a man away.

Let me give you an example.

Imagine you’re feeling angry because a man you are dating is late for a date and that isn’t the first time. You don’t want to evoke an argument or a fight so you just smile and act like nothing happened. Even though you’re sitting there with a big smile on your face, he can feel, in your vibe, in your energy field, that something is off.

He actually feels uncomfortable sitting there with you. He feels the tension in the air even though he doesn’t know why. You didn’t say anything to him, but still, your vibe is communicating that you aren’t happy about something.

How can you shift your vibe in a situation like this?

It can happen simply by being authentic, expressing your truth in the moment without attacking a man or making him wrong. It’s about expressing how you feel and asking him what he thinks about it.

A woman who is strong and confident enough to tell her truth in any situation is very attractive to a man. A woman who is able to feel her feelings and express them in each moment, simple and authentic as they show up, is a magnet to a man.

If you have felt angry, you should allow yourself to feel angry and acknowledge and accept it . Embrace that feeling and take full responsibility for it!

When he comes to you, you can share with him that you feel angry and that you don’t like waiting and ask him what he thinks you two should do? The most important thing here is to owe your own anger without attacking him or acting out of it.

Shifting your vibe at any moment is a skill you can learn by practicing it baby step by baby step.

It is crucial to recognize moments in which your vibe is changing. Moments in which you start to feel needy, desperate or similar. You can stop those moments by redirecting your thoughts to more positive ones.

You Need To Trust Your Vibe Because Energy Never Lies!

In order to have a good vibe, it is also necessary to do all in your power to feel good about yourself.

In addition, shifting your vibe is very much about the attitude you have toward yourself.

Do you believe deep inside yourself that you’re lovable? Do you believe that you deserve love and fulfilling and wonderful relationship?  

What are your beliefs about men and relationships? Do you think that all the good men are taken and that you will never attract a good man for yourself?

Do you believe that you’re attractive to all men around you? Are you a crumb taker, a doormat type of woman? Or do you believe that you are a prize he has to win?

All the beliefs you have about yourself are with you in your energy field; in your vibe, and you are carrying them with you where ever you go.

Whatever you believe about yourself deep down, you will attract in the outside world!

If you don’t value yourself and don’t believe that you deserve a great partner, you will attract a man who will not treat you well because deep down you believe that you don’t deserve anyone better than that. Your vibe attracts your tribe!

We get the love we think we deserve!

Therefore, if you change your attitude and start to believe deep down, in the core of your being, that you’re lovable and a prize who deserve only the best, your vibe will automatically shift.

Men will feel that you are grounded in self-love and high self-esteem.

That’s why it’s crucial to get to know yourself well and to realize which deep beliefs you have about yourself and which voices in your head you listen to, so you can change them.

Maybe your beliefs and previous experiences are working against you and blocking love from coming to you.

Our past is not our destiny.  We can change this all around.

I know you can do this!

Be brave enough to uncover yourself; remove all the layers of protection, all the defenses and anything that is preventing you from speaking your truth clearly and without fear.

Always remember you can’t hide the vibration of your true feelings. Allow yourself to stay connected to what you really feel and be confident enough to share it with your man. 

Therefore embrace your vulnerability and let your soul be seen.

Speak your truth.  Always!

 

P.S. If you want to get more love advice from me and connect with other ladies who are also learning the new things about dating and relationships, join us in private Facebook group “Love With Ease”.

Everything you post there is highly confidential.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/277358435991748

I would love to hear more about you and connect with you more.

Lots of love,

Andreja


Why He Hasn’t Called And What To Do About It

 If you are feeling anxious because your man has suddenly stopped calling, or has even ignored your messages after you reached out to him…

Or

If you went on the first date with a new guy you like very much and you believe it all went well, but it’s been a week and he still hasn’t called you…

I understand how you feel.  I’ve been there.

You may feel  anxious, confused, worried and scared that you are going to lose him. You may feel insecure and almost desperate.

It doesn’t have to be like that!

We need to shift your vibe straight away because feeling insecure, scared or anxious will just make things worse! I’m sure we can fix this right now!

THIS IS WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IN THE FOLLOWING DAYS:

  • Shift your vibe by making yourself feel good. Do other things that you enjoy doing, such as going to different classes, joining Meetup groups, going to salsa or hiking or taking a meditation course etc.
  • Explore some new Meetup groups or classes. Go out and meet some new people!
  • If you are not dating other guys, now is a good moment to open an online dating profile. You will quickly realize that there are many other men who would be very happy to meet you and get to know you. Go out and date other men!
  • Focus your attention on yourself, change something about yourself, your hairstyle or wear a different type of clothing or jewelry. Find something you feel passionate about that has nothing to do with any man and allow yourself to go after it
  • Go and meet your girlfriends and do something fun.
  • Do everything that is in your power to make your life so busy that it can feel like you haven’t even noticed that he hasn’t called you.

HERE IS WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO IN THIS SITUATION:

  • Don’t try to reach out to him by calling him or texting him
  • Don’t try to contact his friends to ask them what has happened to him and why he hasn’t called you
  • Stop thinking about him, stop asking yourself what could have gone wrong, stop beating yourself up if you are starting to feel guilty or rejected
  • Stop checking his social media networks to see when he was last time online and if he published something new on Facebook or Instagram
  • Stop all activities that will keep you obsessing about him such as talking about him to your girlfriends or colleagues.

  • Stop talking and thinking about him!

Giving attention to yourself and your life will help you reduce his importance. Man can sense when we feel needy or desperate. You need to feel lit up from the inside.

Whenever you ‘re thinking too much about any man and focus your energy and attention on him, you are stepping forward to him. Hence, you’re taking away his space to come to you. You are not in a receiving mode!

It doesn’t matter why is he pulling away; maybe he is thinking about his next step in your relationship, maybe he is thinking are you the right person for him, maybe it is just a part of your relationship timeline.  Maybe he is just not the right person for you! It doesn’t matter why and don’t waste tine wondering why!

Men have the need to pull away from time to time. That is their thing. They are like a rubber band. They came to us as close as they can and then they have a need to pull back.

The reasons why he has pulled away, aren’t as important as your reaction to his withdrawing which is crucial in creating attraction or pushing him away even further.

If he IS the right person and just needs some space and time, the most important thing for you to do in order to get a good outcome is to do the steps I just described.

Finally, always remember you can’t push away a man that is right for you,

 

P.S. If you want to get more love advice from me and connect with other ladies who are also learning some new things about dating and relationships, join us in private Facebook group “Love With Ease”.

Everything you post there is highly confidential.

Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/277358435991748

I would love to support you more.

Lots of love,

Andreja


Are you tolerating bad behavior? Learn how to say no when something doesn’t feel right

Have you ever experienced situations in which you were not happy with your man’s behavior but were tolerating it without saying a word?

You were too afraid that you will scare him if you say something? So you rather stuffed it down?

What do I mean by man’s bad behavior?

I am talking about small things in a relationship that don’t make us women feel good. The lack of respect and caring. Unconsiderable, too selfish or ignorant behavior.

Maybe even toxic behavior where he says some nasty words to you which I hope is not the case.

For example, a man asks you often to drive to him even though he can drive to you.

Or maybe sometimes when you two are messaging it takes hours before he replies. You know that he could reply before if he wanted and that is bothering you. Yet still, you don’t say anything.

A man who asks you out on a date and then keeps canceling at the last minute.

A man who talks about his ex on the first date and you really don’t want to hear about it.

A man who never says that he is sorry and so on.

There are endless examples of this.

When we are tolerating a bad behavior, it is like we are saying to a man that it is okay to treat us like that.

At the beginning of the relationship, men will test you to see how much you can put up with.

A woman who knows her value and her high worth does not tolerate! She either accepts or rejects.

That is the kind of woman I want you, dear reader, to become! A Goddess type a woman. A Diva kind of woman!

A woman who knows what she wants and what she feels and who is strong from the inside.

It is very important, even when you aren’t happy with some behavior, to express yourself in a soft and a feminine way. That means by using feeling statements and without attacking or controlling a man.

I know you can do this!  Ask yourself in your current relationship, are you tolerating something?

Women don’t want to be selfish or mean. They want to be nice and kind in all situation and avoid the conflict.

That is the main reason they sometimes don’t feel brave enough to share how they truly feel.

They want to be liked by a man. They feel very scared he will get mad or leave them.

They feel so afraid to lose a man that they rather ignore things that need to be addressed the same moment they happened.

Never be afraid to loose a man because you were intolerant to bad behavior. When we ignore the small things, they grow!

If you don’t express your truth and repress it. hiding it and sit on it, those emotions will start to control you. You will be less and less happy during the time.

Very soon your emotions will start to control you to the extent that you will start to act out of it.

You should never act out of emotions because that will only make things worse.

There is a huge difference between expressing emotions in a feminine way and acting out of it.

Acting out of emotions means being totally controlled by them.

If you read my other blogs, I write a lot about how to express yourself in a way that a man can hear and understand. In a way which is not controlling and without  attacking him or making him wrong.

During the process of dating, you will meet many men who will vanish or will not be a good match.

Every time you will stand for yourself and speak your truth, you will feel more and more powerful. With every “no” you say to a man, you will feel as you are sticking by your highest value. You will be so proud of yourself and you will respect and love yourself even more. 

As a result of all that, you will attract a better quality man.

The truth is that men actually lose attraction for a woman who does everything they want. A woman who puts up with everything and is okay with whatever he does.

If you tolerate this kind of little things and try to please him by all means, it will actually push him away. He will realize that you actually don’t value yourself much!  You are putting him first instead of putting yourself first.

 

Always feel free to say ” This is not working for me”, or “I don’t want to do this”, or “This doesn’t feel good”, or “I don’t feel comfortable with men who are late on dates” and so on.

Every time when you will stay grounded and firm in your values and standards, you will feel great and strong.

Start by observing what you really feel and what you really want in any particular situation. When you feel triggered you need to slow down and really investigate yourself and become a detective of yourself. Notice what is really happening with you at a particular moment. Discover what you truly feel and what you truly want and express in a way previously described.

As a result of this, you will succeed to love and value yourself even more.  You will radiate confidence, strength, and high self-respect.

You will attract a man who will want to love you and value you in the same amount that you love and value yourself.

I wish you success in achieving this and to always be awake to catch when something doesn’t feel good and to be able to express it in a peaceful, feminine, free and untriggered way without acting out of feelings.

 

P.S. If you want to get more love advice from me and connect with other ladies who are also learning some new things about dating and relationships, join us in private Facebook group “Love With Ease”.

Everything you post there is highly confidential.

Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/277358435991748

I would love to support you more.

Lots of love,

Andreja


A New Way To Approach Online Dating

If you approach online dating as a way to open up to the world and get some new experiences, rather than a way to “Find Mr. Right“, you’ll have a much more relaxed and attractive vibe.

If you’ll go on a date out of curiosity with a “Let me see what is out there“ attitude, you’ll be approaching dating with so much less pressure.

Online dating is becoming more and more popular nowadays because very often we are so busy and don’t have much time to visit places where we could meet some new people.

Finding someone online helps us to meet new people very fastly.

It is the best to go on the dates in order to have fun and enjoy the present moment in a company of a new man. Eliminate being results oriented and having a strict attitude.

If you’ve read my free report and other blogs on this page, then you’ve heard all about the importance of being open, smiling, leaning back, acting out of feminine energy, talking in “Feeling Statements“ and trusting your vibe. 

If all of those concepts are new for you, online dating can help you to practice and incorporate it into your life.

Online dating can actually have a healing effect on your life, like a free therapy . It can become an activity where you can observe all the old patterns of your behavior. The patterns that haven’t worked for you so far in the past. Now is a right moment to change them into the ones that will bring you the great results.

It all starts by observing how we feel in a company of each guy we date. It starts by observing our thoughts, catching nasty voices and triggers if they show up.

After we catch some nasty voice or when we are being triggered, we shall feel happy we caught it. Now is the time when we can bring it to the light of awareness and embrace, accept and love that, unloved or unaccepted part of us.

I mentioned: “Trusting Your Vibe.“ What is the vibe?

Your vibe is an energy that you radiate into the world. It consists of all of the thoughts, beliefs, and feelings you have about yourself. For example, if before the date you felt insecure. When your date started, you still felt a bit insecure  but you try to cover it with a lot of talking.

The truth is that men can feel it! They are very sensitive to our vibe!

There is nothing wrong in feeling insecure sometimes while it is wrong to resist it and not allowing yourself to feel it.

You need to acknowledge the feeling and embrace it.

Before you even show up on the date, catch and notice what kind of attitudes and beliefs you have about yourself and about men and dating in general.

Do you believe “I am never going to find love and all men are bad?“  “Why shall I bother, this one will disappoint me and will disappear, they all do?“ or  “I’m not pretty enough nor interesting enough?“, or “I feel fat in this shirt?,” or “I always attract losers?,“ or “Men are interested only in sex?,“ “Love is just not meant to happen to me?,“ or ” I feel so nervous about this date, will he like me?”or  “I’m not good at this dating thing?” and similar thoughts…..?

Don’t worry if you thought some of those thoughts before. I heard many of those from my clients, so you are not the only one.

Believing that kind of thoughts doesn’t serve you!

Your thoughts and feelings are there with you in your vibe so it’s very important to observe every little thought and feeling that comes to you.  

Be thrilled when you catch one, give it love and remind yourself of your own value. Redirect yourself immediately to higher energy thoughts.

So here are some very powerful things you can say to yourself that will make ALL THE DIFFERENCE:

The best attitudes you can have about yourself are always positive such as:

“I feel very confident; I’m a great catch.“ 

“The value I can possibly bring to this man’s life is of a great importance for him.“

“I’m the best thing ever happened to him.“ 

“This world is full of great guys, and they all want to love me.“

“Life loves me, men love me, I am very attractive.“

“There are many good men out there who are a good match for me.“

“I am a prize just for being a woman.“

“My past isn’t my present so I am choosing to open up to new experiences.“

“Men feel awesome in my company.”

….. And so on …..

 

Use online dating for practicing new tools and attitudes, openness and warmth.

That will help you to change your vibe.

It can also help you to realize what kind of men are you attracting, and what kind of men attracts you. You will be able to realize if there is any pattern here.

  Observe men as MESSENGERS who are here to show you where you stand in the process of loving yourself.  They can help you discover which hidden patterns of behavior you haven’t noticed yet.

If a man you’re attracting is often angry, ask yourself, do you have inside anger you aren’t allowing yourself to feel?

If a man you’re attracting is very needy, ask yourself, is there any needy part of you that is longing for your attention?

If a man you are attracting is ignoring you, ask yourself, is there any part of yourself that is being neglected or ignored by you?

People around us are reflections of our own inner state and men are the best mirrors you can have. Experience online dating as a chance to take a look at yourself!

Any time you meet a new man ask yourself, what is the message he has for me?

If he isn’t behaving lovingly towards you, ask yourself, which parts of myself do I need to love more? What do you don’t love about yourself?

Send love to all your feelings and thoughts, embrace your anger and insecurities and any icky feeling that shows up.

When you start to love yourself more, you’ll attract men who will want to love you as well.

 And at the end, one of the greatest benefits of online dating is that it always gives you a feeling that you have other options which is crucial for not becoming needy or desperate about that new great guy you’ve just recently met.

You don’t want to become exclusive with anyone without a serious commitment from his side.

Online dating is CRUCIAL and it is the most important tool you can do for yourself in order to get the greatest results in your love life.

I described here just a few amazing benefits of online dating.

I say hurry up and go straight to at least three online dating websites!

Get your profile there! You need to practice your new way of being with many men so don’t set limits based on physical looks or first impression.

Go deeper than that and give a chance to the guys who are genuine and nice, even if you don’t feel attracted to them straight away.

Online dating is an act of self- love and self- care if you approach it by being process oriented instead of results oriented.

Go and explore and experience what is out there!

You’ll do yourself an amazing favor which will tremendously improve your love life, baby step by baby step!

Love,

Andreja

 

 


Embrace And Honor Your Feelings And Learn How To Love Yourself

Often we try hard to shut down our feelings out. We all have feelings we don’t like to have because they don’t make us feel good.

We try to suppress them and run away from them. Often we are scared of them and we ignore them.

The problem with not being able to feel our feelings is that they start to control us!

Suppressed feelings can become the monsters that control our behaviour and can also cause health problems.

Actually, nowadays it is well known that most of our diseases are caused by unresolved psychological and emotional issues.

Our feelings just want us to feel, accept, acknowledge and allow them.

Our feelings want us to embrace them and love them, even the negative ones. Your anger, fear, sadness or frustration wants to be accepted and loved by you.

I felt very surprised when I first heard that I was supposed to love and accept my anger or my fear.

How could I love my anger when I just want it to go away?

When we feel angry, we need to feel and acknowledge it. We can express it by hitting a pillow or taking a ball and hit it to the wall. We can’t say: “Go away, anger, I don’t want you!”

If we allow ourselves to feel what we are feeling, the emotion will come and go and very often it lasts very shortly. Sometimes only a few seconds. But if we resist our feelings and fight it, it can go on and on for the whole day long. The problem lies in the resistance to feeling so we need to stop resist it!

To be able to love ourselves we need to love all parts of ourselves, all thoughts and feelings and observe ourselves with no judgment and with compassion.

That is the secret for truly LOVING AND ACCEPTING OURSELVES.

Rori Raye in her tool Body Dialogues  explains how we can be compassionate with ourselves.

She calls the voices inside our head, which are saying bad things to us, nasty voices.

They can say to us that we are not good enough, not pretty enough, not slim enough and so on.

If we hear a voice in our head that is saying something nasty to us we can hear it but not believe it.

For example, if that voice makes us feel sad or doubtful you can say to it something like:

“I feel your sadness.  I feel your doubt. I won’t abandon you. I love you. I embrace you. Thank you for trying to protect me. I am here for you. I am so sorry for your pain and for your suffering. I won’t abandon you but I am not going in a direction you want.”

And you can also add:  “Now I will go with feeling better and continue doing what makes me feel good and what makes me BIGGER and HAPPIER so I can share even more compassion with you and with the world.”

I embrace you. I will not leave you behind, I promise. I won’t abandon you on my way up on the ladder of making myself feeling good and being successful in business and love. I love you, I will take care of you, I forgive you. Thank you. I feel compassion for you. ”

Tem to twenty seconds per day you can thank yourself and verbally express compassion for each voice or feeling that doesn’t make you feel good.

Your resistance to feeling will soften. Just a little softening is enough to help you being able to feel and accept all of your feeling.

The second tool which can also help you tremendously in your emotional health and for loving yourself and being compassionate to yourself is called BODY TALK.

This is very intimate tool and it will help you to embrace each body part and love it.

Whatever you are doing at the moment, just stop. Sit or stand for a moment.

Breed deeply into your belly. Let the breeding settle as lower as you can in your body as you can.

For using this tool, you need to track your body and follow your body sensations. Go to the places of pain, tensions- track your tense shoulders, tense hands, your tense belly or your aching back.

Turn your attention to a body part that is feeling it. Look at that body part if you can and place your hand on it.

For example, if it is a shoulder that is tensed, SPEAK TO IT: “I feel you shoulder. I feel your tension.”

ASK IT: “ What if you could feel better shoulder, what if you could relax?” What if it is true you can feel better? What if it is true it is good to feel good?

BE VERY CURIOUS.  “Shoulder, I love you. You can relax. It is okay to relax. It is okay to let go. You are safe, shoulder. You can let go now. Thank you, shoulder.”

Now whatever you feel, feel it.

Say it loud: I feel….. (sad, scared, upset etc.). Thank you, shoulder. Say your feelings as they come out. Breed into that body part.

SAY:  “I am sorry you feel so tense shoulder, thank you. I am feeling bad about making you tense but it is okay to relax, thank you. ”

You can do this for 30-60 seconds whenever you feel tensed or stuck.

On this way, you will start to experience life through your body and through your feelings instead of through your head. Embracing, honoring and loving your feelings and your body means loving yourself. When you learn to truly love yourself, you will feel so much better and at ease with yourself.

You will radiate self-acceptance and confidence.

When you love yourself, you will start to attract men who will want to love you.

Having feelings is not a bad thing. There are like a compass in this world, showing us what is good or not good for us. We should never be scared of our feelings or resisting it. Allow yourself to feel, embrace and honor your feelings and you will experience what loving yourself truly means.