I remember a few years ago someone told me that “Our Vibe Speak Louder Then Our Words”.
I remember back then I understood that; whenever we feel good. positive and energetic, we spread good vibes to people around us and to the universe.
What does it really mean to shift our vibe? When is our vibe actually speaking something that we aren’t saying? We are all so good at pretending and such good actors. We believe that it is much better to hide the truth sometimes and to stay in our comfort zone and not to rock the boat of the relationship.
Pretending, acting, lying, being defensive, stuffing things down, trying to please others on our own cost or not being able to say “no“ to a man will just push a man away.
Let me give you an example.
Imagine you’re feeling angry because a man you are dating is late for a date and that isn’t the first time. You don’t want to evoke an argument or a fight so you just smile and act like nothing happened. Even though you’re sitting there with a big smile on your face, he can feel, in your vibe, in your energy field, that something is off.
He actually feels uncomfortable sitting there with you. He feels the tension in the air even though he doesn’t know why. You didn’t say anything to him, but still, your vibe is communicating that you aren’t happy about something.
How can you shift your vibe in a situation like this?
It can happen simply by being authentic, expressing your truth in the moment without attacking a man or making him wrong. It’s about expressing how you feel and asking him what he thinks about it.
A woman who is strong and confident enough to tell her truth in any situation is very attractive to a man. A woman who is able to feel her feelings and express them in each moment, simple and authentic as they show up, is a magnet to a man.
If you have felt angry, you should allow yourself to feel angry and acknowledge and accept it . Embrace that feeling and take full responsibility for it!
When he comes to you, you can share with him that you feel angry and that you don’t like waiting and ask him what he thinks you two should do? The most important thing here is to owe your own anger without attacking him or acting out of it.
Shifting your vibe at any moment is a skill you can learn by practicing it baby step by baby step.
It is crucial to recognize moments in which your vibe is changing. Moments in which you start to feel needy, desperate or similar. You can stop those moments by redirecting your thoughts to more positive ones.
You Need To Trust Your Vibe Because Energy Never Lies!
In order to have a good vibe, it is also necessary to do all in your power to feel good about yourself.
In addition, shifting your vibe is very much about the attitude you have toward yourself.
Do you believe deep inside yourself that you’re lovable? Do you believe that you deserve love and fulfilling and wonderful relationship?
What are your beliefs about men and relationships? Do you think that all the good men are taken and that you will never attract a good man for yourself?
Do you believe that you’re attractive to all men around you? Are you a crumb taker, a doormat type of woman? Or do you believe that you are a prize he has to win?
All the beliefs you have about yourself are with you in your energy field; in your vibe, and you are carrying them with you where ever you go.
Whatever you believe about yourself deep down, you will attract in the outside world!
If you don’t value yourself and don’t believe that you deserve a great partner, you will attract a man who will not treat you well because deep down you believe that you don’t deserve anyone better than that. Your vibe attracts your tribe!
We get the love we think we deserve!
Therefore, if you change your attitude and start to believe deep down, in the core of your being, that you’re lovable and a prize who deserve only the best, your vibe will automatically shift.
Men will feel that you are grounded in self-love and high self-esteem.
That’s why it’s crucial to get to know yourself well and to realize which deep beliefs you have about yourself and which voices in your head you listen to, so you can change them.
Maybe your beliefs and previous experiences are working against you and blocking love from coming to you.
Our past is not our destiny. We can change this all around.
I know you can do this!
Be brave enough to uncover yourself; remove all the layers of protection, all the defenses and anything that is preventing you from speaking your truth clearly and without fear.
Always remember you can’t hide the vibration of your true feelings. Allow yourself to stay connected to what you really feel and be confident enough to share it with your man.
Therefore embrace your vulnerability and let your soul be seen.
Speak your truth. Always!
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Lots of love,
If you approach online dating as a way to open up to the world and get some new experiences, rather than a way to “Find Mr. Right“, you’ll have a much more relaxed and attractive vibe.
If you’ll go on a date out of curiosity with a “Let me see what is out there“ attitude, you’ll be approaching dating with so much less pressure.
Online dating is becoming more and more popular nowadays because very often we are so busy and don’t have much time to visit places where we could meet some new people.
Finding someone online helps us to meet new people very fastly.
It is the best to go on the dates in order to have fun and enjoy the present moment in a company of a new man. Eliminate being results oriented and having a strict attitude.
If you’ve read my free report and other blogs on this page, then you’ve heard all about the importance of being open, smiling, leaning back, acting out of feminine energy, talking in “Feeling Statements“ and trusting your vibe.
If all of those concepts are new for you, online dating can help you to practice and incorporate it into your life.
Online dating can actually have a healing effect on your life, like a free therapy . It can become an activity where you can observe all the old patterns of your behavior. The patterns that haven’t worked for you so far in the past. Now is a right moment to change them into the ones that will bring you the great results.
It all starts by observing how we feel in a company of each guy we date. It starts by observing our thoughts, catching nasty voices and triggers if they show up.
After we catch some nasty voice or when we are being triggered, we shall feel happy we caught it. Now is the time when we can bring it to the light of awareness and embrace, accept and love that, unloved or unaccepted part of us.
I mentioned: “Trusting Your Vibe.“ What is the vibe?
Your vibe is an energy that you radiate into the world. It consists of all of the thoughts, beliefs, and feelings you have about yourself. For example, if before the date you felt insecure. When your date started, you still felt a bit insecure but you try to cover it with a lot of talking.
The truth is that men can feel it! They are very sensitive to our vibe!
There is nothing wrong in feeling insecure sometimes while it is wrong to resist it and not allowing yourself to feel it.
You need to acknowledge the feeling and embrace it.
Before you even show up on the date, catch and notice what kind of attitudes and beliefs you have about yourself and about men and dating in general.
Do you believe “I am never going to find love and all men are bad?“ “Why shall I bother, this one will disappoint me and will disappear, they all do?“ or “I’m not pretty enough nor interesting enough?“, or “I feel fat in this shirt?,” or “I always attract losers?,“ or “Men are interested only in sex?,“ “Love is just not meant to happen to me?,“ or ” I feel so nervous about this date, will he like me?”or “I’m not good at this dating thing?” and similar thoughts…..?
Don’t worry if you thought some of those thoughts before. I heard many of those from my clients, so you are not the only one.
Believing that kind of thoughts doesn’t serve you!
Your thoughts and feelings are there with you in your vibe so it’s very important to observe every little thought and feeling that comes to you.
Be thrilled when you catch one, give it love and remind yourself of your own value. Redirect yourself immediately to higher energy thoughts.
So here are some very powerful things you can say to yourself that will make ALL THE DIFFERENCE:
The best attitudes you can have about yourself are always positive such as:
Use online dating for practicing new tools and attitudes, openness and warmth.
That will help you to change your vibe.
It can also help you to realize what kind of men are you attracting, and what kind of men attracts you. You will be able to realize if there is any pattern here.
Observe men as MESSENGERS who are here to show you where you stand in the process of loving yourself. They can help you discover which hidden patterns of behavior you haven’t noticed yet.
If a man you’re attracting is often angry, ask yourself, do you have inside anger you aren’t allowing yourself to feel?
If a man you’re attracting is very needy, ask yourself, is there any needy part of you that is longing for your attention?
If a man you are attracting is ignoring you, ask yourself, is there any part of yourself that is being neglected or ignored by you?
People around us are reflections of our own inner state and men are the best mirrors you can have. Experience online dating as a chance to take a look at yourself!
Any time you meet a new man ask yourself, what is the message he has for me?
If he isn’t behaving lovingly towards you, ask yourself, which parts of myself do I need to love more? What do you don’t love about yourself?
Send love to all your feelings and thoughts, embrace your anger and insecurities and any icky feeling that shows up.
When you start to love yourself more, you’ll attract men who will want to love you as well.
And at the end, one of the greatest benefits of online dating is that it always gives you a feeling that you have other options which is crucial for not becoming needy or desperate about that new great guy you’ve just recently met.
You don’t want to become exclusive with anyone without a serious commitment from his side.
Online dating is CRUCIAL and it is the most important tool you can do for yourself in order to get the greatest results in your love life.
I described here just a few amazing benefits of online dating.
I say hurry up and go straight to at least three online dating websites!
Get your profile there! You need to practice your new way of being with many men so don’t set limits based on physical looks or first impression.
Go deeper than that and give a chance to the guys who are genuine and nice, even if you don’t feel attracted to them straight away.
Online dating is an act of self- love and self- care if you approach it by being process oriented instead of results oriented.
Go and explore and experience what is out there!
You’ll do yourself an amazing favor which will tremendously improve your love life, baby step by baby step!