How do you know is he the right man for you?
How do you recognize a man that is right for you? Your Mr.Right ?
How do we know if a man is “the one” for us or if we should continue our search?
Yesterday I watched a movie “Beauty and a briefcase” and it inspired me to write this post.
A lady in a movie had a checklist of what her perfect man should be like.
That made me think about the checklists that we are consciously or subconsciously creating while relating to men.
Here are some of the things which ladies put in their checklists:
- His physical look and intelligence: You want him to be smart, handsome, tall and with beautiful eyes 🙂
- His job: You want him to have nice earnings and a car and a flat if possible 🙂
- His education: Minimally BA and speaking at least two languages 🙂
- His sense of humor: You want a man who makes you laugh and laugh 🙂
- His social life: He should have many friends and very active social life 🙂
- His spiritual view on the world: You two should belong to the same church or same yoga or similar spiritual movement 🙂
You have probably experienced how it felt once when you met a guy who fit perfectly to your list of demands but still, a relationship wasn’t that successful.
He suddenly becomes colder and colder or maybe tells you he wants to be “just friends”.
So why a checklist doesn’t work as the criteria to choose a right man for us?
Why does it happen that even though some man fits 8/10 on your list, but still the two of you go separate ways?
What if I tell you that all of those checklist things have nothing to do with attraction and connection and are very superficial?
The only criteria in picking a right man should be HOW DOES HE MAKES YOU FEEL WHEN YOU ARE WITH HIM AND EVEN WHEN YOU ARE NOT WITH HIM.
Do you feel loved and very important to him and as if you are receiving his energy or you feel drained, empty or anxious?
Does he make you feel secure and loved when you are together by constantly fulfilling your needs but also when you are not together by texting you, calling you and giving you an attention you deserve ON REGULAR BASIS AND CONTINUOUSLY?
Does he keep you wondering if you are important for him or does he show you with his actions HOW MUCH important you are to him?
And the second very important thing is to notice IS HE A WILLING STUDENT; willing to learn HOW to keep making you happy.
You can observe whether he is focused only on his self and not interested in your true needs.
Is he taking care of you only after he took care of all the rest in his life such as his job, family, friends, social activities and so on?
Or is he putting you, your needs and a relationship success as a priority in his life?
His beautiful blue eyes and cute face will not be of any use to you if he makes you feel insecure when he doesn’t contact you for days or makes you feel confused and unloved if he is acting hot and cold.
You need a man who will show you with his actions how special you are to him all the time.
A man who will not forget you and will always put your needs first.
A man who will not be wishy-washy and who will not keep you wondering where you stand in his life.
My dear ladies, in order to make better use of your man picker you need from today onwards, CHOOSE TO BE AROUND ONLY MEN WHOSE ENERGY IS COMING TO YOU and the ones that treat you as a priority and not the 46th item on his list.
When a man’s energy is coming to you, YOU CAN FEEL IT.
He is interested in who you truly are as a person.
He is putting you first, asking about how you feel and how your day went and is interested in your feelings and wishes.
He is really doing his best to GIVE to you and do things that make you happy.
The opposite of that is a man who is trying TO GET something from you, a needy or immature kind of a man whose ability to make you happy is actually very small.
A man who wants YOU to make him happy.
Trust me, you don’t want to be with a man like that! Even if he is smart and very handsome, belongs to the same church and makes you laugh and is very charming. 🙂
He can’t be the right man for you if he makes you feel bad, insecure and anxious about his next step.
Remember, it is all about HOW HE MAKES YOU FEEL when you are with him and when you are not with him and IS HE A WILLING STUDENT; willing to LEARN how to keep making you happy.
To Your Succes In Love,