Are you ignoring the red flags?

January 4, 2016 By: Andreja Andrews | Comments 0

Sometimes us women find ourselves ignoring little things that feel off with a man.

We are making so many excuses for his behavior or even blaming ourselves if something is wrong in our relationship.

Are you tolerating things which deep down inside in your gut you know you shouldn’t be tolerating?

Maybe a man is just not a good match for us but we want it to work out so much that we are ignoring some major red flags.

Let me give you a few examples of the red flags.

You have been dating this guy for a few months but he is comfortable in ignoring you sometimes for days or seeing you just one time in a week or even one time in a few weeks.

Sometimes when that happens, you feel ignored and unimportant. I know how it feels.

And then, as soon as he comes back, you feel so happy that he finally reached out.

Just like that, you quickly forgot how bad you actually felt during those days when he left you with a big question mark above your head.

The truth is that you shouldn’t  be left with a big question mark.

You deserve better than that! That kind of behavior should be a huge turn off for you.

If you were present in the moment, you would have realized that being ignored by a man for a few weeks is a red flag.

Maybe you are “putting things under the carpet” and stuffing them down with the hope that things will change when he realizes how great you are. Let me inform you about something.

Let me inform you about something.

When a woman tolerates and allows any kind of disrespectful, inconsiderable or uncaring or even controlling behavior, a man will keep doing it.

“Why?” you may ask and my reply is “Because you are allowing that”.

Because somewhere deep inside you believe you don’t deserve better. We are back again to valuing ourselves and setting the boundaries.

We attract and accept the kind of love we believe we deserve.

If a man you are dating is disappearing regularly and doing whatever he wants, that is a huge red flag which shouldn’t be ignored.

If he can’t fulfill your basic need for a regular contact, imagine then how many other of your needs is he not capable of fulfilling. 

Are you putting him on a pedestal while, in reality, he has so little to offer?

Your question may be: Why are we ignoring to see that this particular man actually has so little to offer?

Maybe you are wondering: Why are we ready to wait for so long for him to step up?

As I mentioned before, the most common reason is chemistry that we develop. Chemistry that comes from an unhealed place in us.

Does a relationship with your man bring more stress than joy into your life ?

Does it make you feel nervous and keep you tense? Do you wonder what is going to happen next? Do you feel angry with him?

Or do you sit at home alone and long for him because he gives you so little of his time? Gives you crumbs while you actually deserve a man who is willing to give you the whole cake and not just the crumbs?

All of the things I just mentioned are examples of red flags and they should never be ignored!

If you’re ignoring the red flags, you are wasting your precious time with a man who wasn’t able to make you happy from the beginning. 

Maybe you are still not willing to see it and admit it.

It is so much better to notice the red flags as soon as possible.

As time is passing by, it is harder to let go of a man because we feel attached.

Anyways, you will have to do it sooner or later so why not to do it straight away.

Now is the time to see the truth or to start to observe it. Admit yourself what is really going on and act accordingly. If it is not working with some guy, there are plenty of fish in the sea!  He is not the only man in the world! Love yourself enough for not to settle for less than great!

Love yourself enough to discard scenarios in which you are not receiving something that you should be receiving. Allow yourself to reject and not be around any man who makes you feel less than great!

The price you need to pay by ignoring the red flags is a lot of your precious time wasted and maybe another heartbreak.

Always be awake and ready to see things as they truly are even if in some cases they are not as you would like them to be!

 

Love,

Andreja

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