A New Way To Approach Online Dating
If you approach online dating as a way to open up to the world and get some new experiences, rather than a way to “Find Mr. Right“, you’ll have a much more relaxed and attractive vibe.
If you’ll go on a date out of curiosity with a “Let me see what is out there“ attitude, you’ll be approaching dating with so much less pressure.
Online dating is becoming more and more popular nowadays because very often we are so busy and don’t have much time to visit places where we could meet some new people.
Finding someone online helps us to meet new people very fastly.
It is the best to go on the dates in order to have fun and enjoy the present moment in a company of a new man. Eliminate being results oriented and having a strict attitude.
If you’ve read my free report and other blogs on this page, then you’ve heard all about the importance of being open, smiling, leaning back, acting out of feminine energy, talking in “Feeling Statements“ and trusting your vibe.
If all of those concepts are new for you, online dating can help you to practice and incorporate it into your life.
Online dating can actually have a healing effect on your life, like a free therapy . It can become an activity where you can observe all the old patterns of your behavior. The patterns that haven’t worked for you so far in the past. Now is a right moment to change them into the ones that will bring you the great results.
It all starts by observing how we feel in a company of each guy we date. It starts by observing our thoughts, catching nasty voices and triggers if they show up.
After we catch some nasty voice or when we are being triggered, we shall feel happy we caught it. Now is the time when we can bring it to the light of awareness and embrace, accept and love that, unloved or unaccepted part of us.
I mentioned: “Trusting Your Vibe.“ What is the vibe?
Your vibe is an energy that you radiate into the world. It consists of all of the thoughts, beliefs, and feelings you have about yourself. For example, if before the date you felt insecure. When your date started, you still felt a bit insecure but you try to cover it with a lot of talking.
The truth is that men can feel it! They are very sensitive to our vibe!
There is nothing wrong in feeling insecure sometimes while it is wrong to resist it and not allowing yourself to feel it.
You need to acknowledge the feeling and embrace it.
Before you even show up on the date, catch and notice what kind of attitudes and beliefs you have about yourself and about men and dating in general.
Do you believe “I am never going to find love and all men are bad?“ “Why shall I bother, this one will disappoint me and will disappear, they all do?“ or “I’m not pretty enough nor interesting enough?“, or “I feel fat in this shirt?,” or “I always attract losers?,“ or “Men are interested only in sex?,“ “Love is just not meant to happen to me?,“ or ” I feel so nervous about this date, will he like me?”or “I’m not good at this dating thing?” and similar thoughts…..?
Don’t worry if you thought some of those thoughts before. I heard many of those from my clients, so you are not the only one.
Believing that kind of thoughts doesn’t serve you!
Your thoughts and feelings are there with you in your vibe so it’s very important to observe every little thought and feeling that comes to you.
Be thrilled when you catch one, give it love and remind yourself of your own value. Redirect yourself immediately to higher energy thoughts.
So here are some very powerful things you can say to yourself that will make ALL THE DIFFERENCE:
The best attitudes you can have about yourself are always positive such as:
“I feel very confident; I’m a great catch.“
“The value I can possibly bring to this man’s life is of a great importance for him.“
“I’m the best thing ever happened to him.“
“This world is full of great guys, and they all want to love me.“
“Life loves me, men love me, I am very attractive.“
“There are many good men out there who are a good match for me.“
“I am a prize just for being a woman.“
“My past isn’t my present so I am choosing to open up to new experiences.“
“Men feel awesome in my company.”
….. And so on …..
Use online dating for practicing new tools and attitudes, openness and warmth.
That will help you to change your vibe.
It can also help you to realize what kind of men are you attracting, and what kind of men attracts you. You will be able to realize if there is any pattern here.
Observe men as MESSENGERS who are here to show you where you stand in the process of loving yourself. They can help you discover which hidden patterns of behavior you haven’t noticed yet.
If a man you’re attracting is often angry, ask yourself, do you have inside anger you aren’t allowing yourself to feel?
If a man you’re attracting is very needy, ask yourself, is there any needy part of you that is longing for your attention?
If a man you are attracting is ignoring you, ask yourself, is there any part of yourself that is being neglected or ignored by you?
People around us are reflections of our own inner state and men are the best mirrors you can have. Experience online dating as a chance to take a look at yourself!
Any time you meet a new man ask yourself, what is the message he has for me?
If he isn’t behaving lovingly towards you, ask yourself, which parts of myself do I need to love more? What do you don’t love about yourself?
Send love to all your feelings and thoughts, embrace your anger and insecurities and any icky feeling that shows up.
When you start to love yourself more, you’ll attract men who will want to love you as well.
And at the end, one of the greatest benefits of online dating is that it always gives you a feeling that you have other options which is crucial for not becoming needy or desperate about that new great guy you’ve just recently met.
You don’t want to become exclusive with anyone without a serious commitment from his side.
Online dating is CRUCIAL and it is the most important tool you can do for yourself in order to get the greatest results in your love life.
I described here just a few amazing benefits of online dating.
I say hurry up and go straight to at least three online dating websites!
Get your profile there! You need to practice your new way of being with many men so don’t set limits based on physical looks or first impression.
Go deeper than that and give a chance to the guys who are genuine and nice, even if you don’t feel attracted to them straight away.
Online dating is an act of self- love and self- care if you approach it by being process oriented instead of results oriented.
Go and explore and experience what is out there!
You’ll do yourself an amazing favor which will tremendously improve your love life, baby step by baby step!