“If you need to ask yourself where you stand with someone very often, maybe it is time to stop standing and start walking.”
One of the ways in which you can “start walking” is definitely SIM dating which is one of the fundamental concepts of Love With Ease coaching system.
SIM dating means simultaneously dating more than one man.
If you don’t like going to clubs and you don’t have many social activities to attend, online dating is the best solution for you to arrange dates. It is also great to check out “meetup activities” in your city because that is also a great option to meet new people.
Even if you DO have a very active social life and have been invited to many dates, there are never too many invitations and offers.
I want you to feel very abundant regarding your possibilities.
Don’t get yourself stuck on just one person, who is maybe far away from the idea of making you his wife. Even if he has been dating you for a while now.
Choose a few of your best photos, upload them on at least 2 or 3 online dating profiles and then just wait for your messages and invitations to dates.
It is that simple and it will help you not to get stuck on that one man who kept you wondering is he serious about you or not!
Of course, you stay sexually exclusive with just one of the guys but you accept invitations to coffee dates and walks from other guys as well.
Until you don’t have a ring on your finger, you need to keep your options open.
Guys don’t feel any kind of commitment to you until they don’t propose to you even if you are exclusive. They are just dating you.
Even if you have been together for years.
They can change their minds at any time and you need to protect yourself by having other options and in this way, keeping your vibe high.
Even if you feel very much in love with one of them.
In that case, you should be SIM dating even more.
I know that it might sound shocking when you hear it for the first time but in the most cases it a necessity.
Don’t be lazy and don’t make excuses for yourself why you are not dating at the moment and why you don’t have time for it.
We always find time for things that are important for us.
You need to free time for dating in your dairy if long-term success in love is your goal.
Leave emotions out of the first phases of dating and observe man’s actions very objectively.
Lean back and check his actions rather than his words. Only by leaning back will you be able to notice what he truly has to offer and is
Only by leaning back you will be able to notice what he truly has to offer and is he capable leading the relationship.
If you are very interested in a guy, wait as long as possible to sleep with him.
Spend time to observe objectively how much of his time, energy and feelings is he ready to invest in you and is stepping up. Your only job is to observe his actions and his level of investment.
You can keep him as one of the guys you are seeing but please don’t keep wishy-washy or hot and cold guy as your only option because that is a recipe for your emotional disaster.
It is time to start walking my dear if he keeps making you wondering where you stand with him.
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Lots of love,
I remember around four years ago when I first heard about the system of tools that I am teaching today, I was practicing it on my own.
I was dating a few guys at the same time, which I today call SIM dating as an abbreviation for simultaneously dating more than one guy at the same time.
One evening I met a new guy who left a great first impression on me. He picked up the great place, we had a lot to talk about and it was a perfect evening.
After our date, he told me to text him if I was interested in continuing dating him. It was a red flag for me and I thought “Why is he asking me this?“.
I didn’t feel totally comfortable with that but I remembered that I learned that if a man asks you to do something then it is not masculine energy and leaning forward. During that time I was really practicing being in my feminine energy and leaning back.
I was feeling a bit nervous and excited that night so I didn’t know what to reply but today I would say “I like when a man contacts me first. What do you think?“.
Anyways, I did contact him the next day with a nice feeling statement message and he replied that he will be happy to see me and that he will plan something and call me.
I know it maybe doesn’t look like a big thing because it was just one date, but it was a big thing for me because I thought he was special and I gave him a much more importance that he actually deserved.
It is all in our head when we make some man special from the start even though it is a way too early to jump into that conclusion because he didn’t support it with action. It is what I call “an imaginary picture about a guy“ which then leads to “an imaginary relationship“ where you got yourself invested in a guy way too early.
So I always advise my ladies to treat all the guys that they are SIM dating EQUALLY. Not making one better or more important than another, and rather staying objective and watching their actions.
Let me go back to the story.
I remember around day six, I was feeling so disappointed and had an urge to text him. I was thinking that he is maybe a kind of a guy who needs a little help from my side to realize that I like him. And I was thinking if I do not text him than some other lady will!
Luckily I promised to myself that I will follow this system and one of the boundaries which I was practicing was not to initiate contact at the beginning of a relationship. My choice was rather getting more active on online dating websites and redirecting my energy towards other guys.
That felt really hard for but I stuck to it!
I remember that night on the sixth day I ended up on a date with one of the other guys I was seeing at the same time and wow, that really helped me forget about this guy but still not totally.
During the next few days, I was really active on online dating profiles and went on a few more dates and that all help me to let go of the man who obviously wasn’t interested enough.
I succeeded to observe his lack of effort as a turn-off rather than a call for a more action from my side.
After that sixth and seventh-day crisis, it was much easier to overcome the urge to text him.
Finally, on the 12th day when I already let go of him energetically, he came back and I received his message where he was explaining how he was ill and had food poisoning and was even at a hospital for a few days.
Only when I stopped obsessing about him and making him too important, was he able to come to me!
This blog is already too long to continue writing what happen next with this man but I will rather choose to share what I gained from this experience:
I hope you learned something from this.
Have you ever experienced obsessing about a man and not receiving his texts and then when you forget about him, here he comes?
Have you ever had a hard time wanting to contact him but knowing that you shouldn’t?
Lots of Love,