April, 2016

Are you tolerating bad behavior? Learn how to say no when something doesn’t feel right

Have you ever experienced situations in which you were not happy with your man’s behavior but were tolerating it without saying a word?

You were too afraid that you will scare him if you say something? So you rather stuffed it down?

What do I mean by man’s bad behavior?

I am talking about small things in a relationship that don’t make us women feel good. The lack of respect and caring. Unconsiderable, too selfish or ignorant behavior.

Maybe even toxic behavior where he says some nasty words to you which I hope is not the case.

For example, a man asks you often to drive to him even though he can drive to you.

Or maybe sometimes when you two are messaging it takes hours before he replies. You know that he could reply before if he wanted and that is bothering you. Yet still, you don’t say anything.

A man who asks you out on a date and then keeps canceling at the last minute.

A man who talks about his ex on the first date and you really don’t want to hear about it.

A man who never says that he is sorry and so on.

There are endless examples of this.

When we are tolerating a bad behavior, it is like we are saying to a man that it is okay to treat us like that.

At the beginning of the relationship, men will test you to see how much you can put up with.

A woman who knows her value and her high worth does not tolerate! She either accepts or rejects.

That is the kind of woman I want you, dear reader, to become! A Goddess type a woman. A Diva kind of woman!

A woman who knows what she wants and what she feels and who is strong from the inside.

It is very important, even when you aren’t happy with some behavior, to express yourself in a soft and a feminine way. That means by using feeling statements and without attacking or controlling a man.

I know you can do this!  Ask yourself in your current relationship, are you tolerating something?

Women don’t want to be selfish or mean. They want to be nice and kind in all situation and avoid the conflict.

That is the main reason they sometimes don’t feel brave enough to share how they truly feel.

They want to be liked by a man. They feel very scared he will get mad or leave them.

They feel so afraid to lose a man that they rather ignore things that need to be addressed the same moment they happened.

Never be afraid to loose a man because you were intolerant to bad behavior. When we ignore the small things, they grow!

If you don’t express your truth and repress it. hiding it and sit on it, those emotions will start to control you. You will be less and less happy during the time.

Very soon your emotions will start to control you to the extent that you will start to act out of it.

You should never act out of emotions because that will only make things worse.

There is a huge difference between expressing emotions in a feminine way and acting out of it.

Acting out of emotions means being totally controlled by them.

If you read my other blogs, I write a lot about how to express yourself in a way that a man can hear and understand. In a way which is not controlling and without  attacking him or making him wrong.

During the process of dating, you will meet many men who will vanish or will not be a good match.

Every time you will stand for yourself and speak your truth, you will feel more and more powerful. With every “no” you say to a man, you will feel as you are sticking by your highest value. You will be so proud of yourself and you will respect and love yourself even more. 

As a result of all that, you will attract a better quality man.

The truth is that men actually lose attraction for a woman who does everything they want. A woman who puts up with everything and is okay with whatever he does.

If you tolerate this kind of little things and try to please him by all means, it will actually push him away. He will realize that you actually don’t value yourself much!  You are putting him first instead of putting yourself first.

 

Always feel free to say ” This is not working for me”, or “I don’t want to do this”, or “This doesn’t feel good”, or “I don’t feel comfortable with men who are late on dates” and so on.

Every time when you will stay grounded and firm in your values and standards, you will feel great and strong.

Start by observing what you really feel and what you really want in any particular situation. When you feel triggered you need to slow down and really investigate yourself and become a detective of yourself. Notice what is really happening with you at a particular moment. Discover what you truly feel and what you truly want and express in a way previously described.

As a result of this, you will succeed to love and value yourself even more.  You will radiate confidence, strength, and high self-respect.

You will attract a man who will want to love you and value you in the same amount that you love and value yourself.

I wish you success in achieving this and to always be awake to catch when something doesn’t feel good and to be able to express it in a peaceful, feminine, free and untriggered way without acting out of feelings.

 

P.S. If you want to get more love advice from me and connect with other ladies who are also learning some new things about dating and relationships, join us in private Facebook group “Love With Ease”.

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Lots of love,

Andreja